Sunday, January 3, 2016

year one

Some people warned me that the first year of marriage is the hardest but I just can't imagine that. This year was so so good. I don't think I can sound like anything but a cheesy, lovey-dovey mess when I think about our marriage. We had a healthy year, a peaceful year, a joyful year, a fun year.  I have loved being married more than I ever thought possible. Whenever I'm asked "how's married life?" the first word to pop into my head is FUN! And it really is such pure joy to have T.J. there all the time to talk to, dream with, snuggle on the couch with, cook dinner for, travel with, laugh with, come home to. The comfort of knowing he is mine and I am his forever, is so grounding, and in the same breath, freeing.
He is a part of me in ways I never imagined. We said our vows and in a weekend we went from living separate lives, in separate parts of the country, with separate closets and bank accounts, to one home, one messy closet, one life together.  There is hardly a thought I have that doesn't include him in some way. When I plan my day, when I pick out cereal in the grocery store, when I think about the next week, month, year, it is no longer just about me.
We've taken on these new (favorite) titles, "his wife," "my husband," and as we daily know each other more, we've loved each other better. We're in this together, day to day, year to year. We believe strongly and passionately that this covenant we made with each other and with God, was not just words spoken on a pretty, rainy, day in January. There is power, and so much peace, wrapped up in that promise.
I know we're new at this and I'm not so naive to think that we wont have hard seasons, but all my life, my biggest dream, my most desperate prayer, was to be a wife and a mother.  Now I look at my husband (still love that I get to say that) and I see all those dreams come true.
We celebrated our anniversary last night since T.J. has to work today. We went to one of our favorite Tacoma restaurants, I broke out the earrings and perfume I wore on our wedding day, and then we came home and watched our wedding video. It was a perfect night and the perfect start to another wonderful year together. I went to bed feeling so happy I have to pinch myself. This is really our life and it's beautiful, and we created it, him and me, us, together, one year ago today.

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  1. My most favorite post ever!! Wishing you a lifetime of happy anniversaries xo

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  2. Happy Anniversary! I love that your dream was/is to be a wife and a mom. That was mine as well. I am so thankful to say I have been married for 18 years going on 19. We are blessed with two healthy boys, who are now teenagers!! I have loved my role as a wife and a mom.
    I enjoy the positive way you write about your marriage and your husband.
    Carla

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    1. Thank you so much for your sweet encouragement! These days it's not the most popular answer to "what do you want to be when you grow up?" but I can't think of anything more valuable or rewarding.

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  3. Happy, happy anniversary!! A beautiful post and it's hard to believe it's been a year already!

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    1. Thank you!! This year has flown!!!

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  4. Gorgeous photos! I think your dress is one of the prettiest I've ever seen! Honestly I feel the same way. I absolutely loved the first year of our marriage. The year of being engaged (and wedding planning), and this past year, or "the year of the baby" were definitely MUCH harder. I'm glad you are having fun with married life!

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